killing us softly, but surely….

killing us softly, but surely….

Recently, I met a guy at a dinner party who told me completely out of the blue that he has “over 40,000 twitter followers.”

“My name is Toby, you should invite me to speak at some of your events, I have more than 40,000 followers on twitter…”

The next day when i reflected on the conversation, i realized this was part of the guys most cherished achievement … he has a bunch of “followers…”

Personally, I just cant do this social networking stuff and all the self promotion — look at me!! please…please…please like me…please like me…please follow me…please.

I quit facebook completely about 9 months ago.  I rarely use linkedin, and I don’t use twitter or instagram at all.

I just can’t do it.

At the end of the day, i don’t give a f….. if people like me or if people like my blog or not.  I keep this blog because it helps me focus.

I wont go into all the misinformation and lies being spread via these platforms, esp. twitter and the incredible negative impact it is having on our children … that’s a discussion for another day…

But I wonder how many decisions are being made on issues based on the number of Facebook “like’s” something receives?

Are people being judged by their achievements and quality of their character…or by the number of Twitter followers they have?
(although our marketing team has my blog linked on twitter – I do not use Twitter)

Several people reading this blog are in some way involved in a leadership position within their company, school, sports team or community – even if you’re not a leader, I assume you are aspiring to become one.

Do you really care if people like you?

Does a great leader really care if he or she is liked?

A leader is not meant to be a best friend.

A leader needs to inspire, motivate and get people to do what they don’t want to do, and enjoy doing it.

Look around you – or at the very least, reflect.

I bet …

the best leader/manager/mentor/coach … you have had in your life — the person who got the most out of you, whether it was on a sports team or job, etc. in your life was NOT the nicest person in the playground.

Instead of worrying about what people will “like ..” focus on doing whatever it is you are doing and ensure you are doing it to the best of your ability – and do it honorably.


Tomorrow i will explore the theme of “too many people are addicted to doing nothing, and when you do you nothing for too long, one becomes un-re-habitable.”


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